Showing posts with label Lovingkindness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Lovingkindness. Show all posts

Monday, 12 May 2014

The Best Ways of Ever Giving Charity: Two Awesome Videos


Everyone knows that giving charity is one of life's major tests. It's not always easy to give even when we have the best of intentions. But there are always times we do want to give. We want to make the difference in another's life - especially when we know just how much they need help. Everybody needs help - at some point in time. It's always good - as they say - to pay it forwards.

I had seen the video below a few weeks ago and it caught my attention. The Rambam lists 8 levels of charity. The highest when we help someone get a job, employ him (and pay him WELL,) support his activities, give him a loan, refer others to him etc. etc. The list continues with aspects concerning the giver and recipient and which of the parties is aware that the other is involved in the transaction. The lowest level is giving even when one does so begrudgingly.

Here's a quick story of someone who wanted to give to others without embarrassing them:

A wealthy man once wanted to make sure that the poor of his town were taken care of. He did not want to embarrass them with his gifts. What did he do? He had a company ship over a quantity of bricks to his home and instructed them to place the bricks on his front lawn. He then called up the first needy man and told him he had a problem! He was in need of the bricks - but in his backyard! He would pay him $200 if he could move the bricks there so that he could continue with some work. What a pleasure - thought the poor man. Just a couple of hours later, it was all done - and he was $200 richer!

The wealthy man then called another of the poor in town. He explained to him that some bricks had been delivered and placed in the backyard. He needed them on the front lawn. He would pay him well - $200 if he could help. The poor man was only too happy! In just a couple of hours the bricks were on the front lawn - and this poor man - like the other, was already $200 richer!

And so the wealthy man continued - assisting in this same way - for all the poor in town.

Giving is something we can all do to help another. We can do it even without embarrassing them! There's always a way to make it happen!

In our video, a man does the same thing - making one in-need "wealthy" without causing any embarrassment! (Surely he would have found out later - but this is not the point. At the time it was happening, the man in need had no idea what was planned.) We should watch and learn - that giving in ways that do not cause embarrassment to the other are indeed ranked in the highest of levels of charity.


It was the follow up to this story that blew me away the most! You'll have to watch it to believe it. Those who saw the act of kindness, were so encouraged, so taken in by the good deed, that they also wanted a part. They also wanted to help this homeless man. They did so by donating generously! So much money came in that they were able to purchase a home for the homeless man (see the deal in the video) and assist him with some very fine furnishings! This is indeed an aspect of the highest level of charity.

Chessed Ve'Emet is also involved in assisting those who lack, to be able to own their own home items, including furniture, appliances and other necessities - all brand new! Our dream is to be able to assist those lacking to be able - very much like this man - to own their very own homes. Any time one is involved in showing others the importance of giving to the highest extent possible creates a great Kiddush Hashem - a sanctification of the Name of G-d. Likewise we can well imagine what discouraging others from performing such acts of kindness can do, let alone showing up the true lack of value they have for another. We really do need to watch videos like this and see that even amongst the nations of the world, there are those who value the honour of another and wish for their very best - nothing less than the best! Imagine how much more beautiful this world would be, if instead of always thinking that the other could get by on the street, we would think of how to assist them to live in dignity and honour!

For those wanting to learn more of our activities, see our main page: Bayit Chadash - Wedding Project - assisting orphans to marry in dignity.

This video is extremely powerful! May we learn to perform acts of kindness in similar ways and give wherever we can to those in need.

Sunday, 23 February 2014

It's FREEZING! What Would You Have Done? What Would You Do?

The excuse is always what we will do "one day" that counts. We all talk about the times when we'll have the money - just how many people we will help! How many times have we heard this from others? The future is open and when the good times come - we'll be giving to everybody! Then of course, are the times when we see what others have done - and say the same thing! If we were there, then we too would have done the exact same thing!

But life is about the now. It's about doing what counts right this moment - to those who may need more than we do. What would we do right now, if we saw the situation truly needed something? Would we be there to help - or would we talk of the past - of doing what others have already done? Or perhaps we would talk of the future - of just how much we will help when we have it all (if we ever do.)

Let's see what others really do do - in this beautiful video clip. This is reality. Here are the real people of the world. Are you one of them? The situation demands immediate attention. Are we willing to give in - right away? So many do. To see it happening is an inspiration. Don't forget, you can always be one of these people. It takes courage to stand out from the crowd - to help the other when they are in need. But that's what it's really all about. It's not about discussing what work they're doing at the time, nor criticizing why it is that they're now freezing ("you made your bed...") It's about real action. It's about now. That's what's required - from every one of us. There really are no excuses - when it comes to doing an additional kindness for someone - without demanding answers - when they're suffering.


Wednesday, 19 February 2014

Appreciating Kindness and Truth


Yesterday was a big day for me as I changed the banner to my blog. It's been some time and it was worth the face lift! It got me thinking again about the beautiful values of kindness and truth - Chessed Ve'Emet (the name of our organisation) - what everybody should stand up for. The world is built on kindness - says King David (Tehillim 89:3,) and in 85:11 he says "Kindness and truth met, righteousness and peace kissed." They are the core values of life for any human being. At this time of year as we read about the building of the Tabernacle - the Mishkan - we become aware of the awesome wealth involved in order to make it what it was. And what exactly was it? It was a place for the Divine Presence to rest inside - ultimately shining Her rays into the heart of every Jew.

The Creator of the world wanted nothing less than the very best of material things - in order to rest Her Presence. More suprisingly, the Jews responded with a hearty "YES!" They all contributed. Some gold and some silver while others took part with materials. It was an awesome project that brought G-d into the world bringing blessing to all(!)

Our focus must continue in this same direction. We must admit to the beautiful values of truth - and we must be prepared to be kind - because that brings out a necessary truth in itself - one that acknowledges the need of the other - as much as we want it for ourselves. The Jews did not compromise in building the ultimate palace for G-d - and it is a lesson to  us to never slacken in contributing goodness and kindness to all others too.

Of course, if one feels one just cannot be kind - then at least do be quiet!

Someone once said that there are three sets of beautiful words that can instantly make a woman smile - "You are beautiful," "I miss you," and "I love you." They are not just for women - they will make anyone smile.  When said with meaning, these are words of kindness and they are also words of truth. It's kindness and truth that makes all the difference - to everyone.

Experience the Tabernacle. Experience the effort all went through to make it beautiful - because it is a place for G-d. So too is each individual a mini-Tabernacle needing the best of everything, the love, the kindness, the genuineness of the other and their caring.

Try it some time soon. You will see that the other will smile. 


Friday, 31 January 2014

Podcast - Assisting Orphans to Marry - with Reb Eliyahu, Shoshanah & Errol Ballen (Radio Protea)



For those new to our activities, enjoy this wonderful podcast as Errol Ballen from Radio Protea interviewed us last night discussing the variety of activities we are involved in. You'll hear more about the Torah outreach we do, our Mitzvah projects - and most notably, the Bayit Chadash Wedding Project - assisting orphans to marry. We come in at about 47:10. Enjoy! Do be in touch with us to find our more about becoming a partner in kindness together with us!


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Tuesday, 21 January 2014

Assisting Orphans to Marry - Rabbi Avraham Sutton Talks to Reb Eliyahu


Imagine preparing for the excitement of your wedding day! Everything seems set to go and the day arrives. It's not quite as big as you expected with just 50 guests - but it will have to do. There's no new suit for the Chatan. In fact there's nobody really taking care of the wedding except for the Chatan and Kallah themselves. That's because at least one of them is an orphan.

Imagine - it's not far off - the guests don't have the means to assist the couple either - so the gifts they'll receive will be few. After the wedding, the couple will find themselves entering a home without a fridge, without a stove (or oven), without what many consider a necessity - a washing machine. Imagine entering your bedroom after the Simcha - to find - there are no beds. In fact, nobody actually cares whether you have them or not. Your first Shabbos sees you without a Challah board - not to speak of the fact that there's no table to put it on.

Go back to the scene of your wedding again. Imagine your Simcha with guests who have no interest in dancing - because you're an orphan - and it's you who must get things going so that somebody will dance - at your Simcha! Imagine there's no budget for a photographer - and nobody really interested enough to take a beautiful picture of both Chatan and Kallah together - one that could be framed and put on the table (not yet available!)

Imagine the embarrassment and pain of it all. But it's not fantasy. This is a reality...

Chessed Ve'Emet saw the urgent need to develop a unique project and a unique fund aimed at giving orphans the blessings they need and certainly deserve at the time of marriage. Whether "friends" take part or not - Chessed Ve'Emet is doing its utmost to see to it that those lacking should never feel the shame or embarrassment (and humiliation after the wedding from those who wish to further add insult to injury!) from not knowing how to even begin life and their homes at the time of Chuppah and thereafter.

Do watch this video with Rabbi Avraham Sutton and Reb Eliyahu discussing this important Mitzvah. But don't just watch it because it all sounds good, meaningful or emotional. Watch it so that it makes such a difference that sharing it with others is just the start - making a meaningful donation to actually assist is the next and immediate step. You can find out more about our project by visiting the Bayit Chadash Wedding Project, where you can make an immediate donation to our project today. Your donation is urgently needed as we head into the new year hoping to assist at least 15 orphans this year - with everything that they require.



Friday, 7 September 2012

Our New Magazine - "Yibaneh Yerushalayim" (Animated Video about It!)


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Tuesday, 7 February 2012

Tu B'Shevat: Become an Artist! Become a Circle Drawer Today!


!!!ט"ו בשבט הגיע חג האילנות
Tu B'Shevat has arrived - the Festival of the Trees!!!

Man is a tree of the field (Deuteronomy 20:19) Man and trees are very much interlinked. It was through a tree that man entered a new phase of life as he was sent out of the Garden of Eden. At the same time - one of the most mystical sets of books written - the Etz Chayim by the holy Arizal - brings life to those who understand its mysteries!

There's much to think about regarding the value of a tree - and the value of another human being. As we see the beautiful trees of the field, let us be reminded of the beauty of others. As we value the importance of water to trees so that they bear fruit for us, so too may we value our giving to others so that they too bear fruits for all others to enjoy too.

Enjoy this delightful video clip of a famous teaching in Masechet Taanit. Become a circle drawer today. Become a Choni. Just be sure to bring happiness and goodness to all those "trees" in need of the waters you may be able to provide.

Monday, 30 January 2012

How Easy it is To Forget ( +Video Clip)



We're living in tough times. It seems like everyone today is stressed. How many of us are really looking out for others and do we really care? Facebook, Twitter and the variety of social networking tools have become the ultimate places to show just how much we "care"! Those who take these utilities and tools seriously will probably imagine that everyone is doing just great! We're all wealthy, happy and blessed!

Yet the other side stands out only too clearly. Peek in just a little more at the messages interspersed with such apparent positivity, and you'll also find out the disdain that so many have against so many others. And for the lack of "dislike" buttons, you'll also see how so many people actually like the suffering of others. It seems crazy! On the one hand - such positivity. On the other, such anger, such disillusionment, such disgust at so many.

Real life is not that much different. When the baby is born - most everyone is overjoyed with the new "bundle" in the family. A first crawl brings with it such happiness... a first word (Da da, Ma ma) such elation to the parents... First steps bring a joy like no other. There's the first day at school. And then - those special moments life is filled with. But "baby" doesn't last that long, and before long, he's turned into "adolescent" - let alone "adult" all of his own. Many parents change their tune on seeing the "monster" they've brought into the world. What ever happened?!

Friendships are not much different in the way they play out. They too are filled with similar such stages of happiness and glee - which, with time seems to deteriorate into hatred for many - sadly. It even happens with acquaintanceship too. There's good to everyone. There's always difficulties and challenges to relationships. The causes can be anything from money (and total disrespect to the one found lacking) to a change in looks, to a change in life approaches (let alone belief in G-d!) 

Don't ever forget though, we've all been babies. And we've all loved the "babies" of the relationships we've made with others. Don't ever forget, that person who may well be getting on your nerves today, was someone you truly once loved, even delighted in - in those days gone by!

Things change fast, and before one knows it, the terrifying events that one would never expect to another can actually happen in just a moment - changing life itself. It seems then how many regret their previous behaviour of hatred against the other. Suddenly it seems, the "baby" images return. Actually, they never left, they were always there. It's just that sometimes we forget...

Never allow life to cause you to forget what's important. Never allow life to distract you from the wonderful relationships you do have and may have had from many many years ago - even a lifetime itself. It's really not worth it. There is so much good out there. Don't wait, until it's too late... Never forget. Always remember - and let that image remain with you whenever you are around that person you feel so antagonistic with today... No matter if husband or wife, brother or sister, father or mother, son or daughter, friend or even just another human being whom you bump into... Don't forget just how quickly things can change. Don't forget - how you may just feel then. Don't ever let life become "too late..." for anybody.

Tuesday, 27 December 2011

Respecting Another - Gaining their Respect - and Receiving Honour (+Video Clip)



I found another wonderful video (below article) of some wonderful animals. It seems I keep coming back to them to learn some of the most crucial lessons in life. There are so many "people" around who think of man in the most derogatory of ways, yet they turn to animals in love. Many will donate thousands of dollars to "Save the Whale" foundations and the like, while leaving an orphaned bride to fend for herself. 

Perhaps when I think of this, I myself find myself turning to seeing the wonders of animals in the hope of sharing their lessons to us, so that we can learn to include the beautiful qualities they have, within ourselves. Seeing their beauty should encourage us to behave with each other with at least as much love as many of us bestow upon them. Indeed, the words that G-d recited, "Let us create man" hint to the fact that G-d included all of creation in man. He called all of creation together and brought it all into the being He called "Man." 


On our side, it is up to us to find those beautiful sparks of all creation and bring them out into the world. This may mean turning to a leaf and finding out it's beauty and sharing that part of beauty as a human - with others. It may mean turning to an ant - and finding out it's beauty - and making that a part of our inner being. It may even mean turning to a gorilla - to find out something beautiful about it - to make ourselves just a little more beautiful too! What ever could we learn from a gorilla?!

I wondered about the idea of learning great things from a young person too. How many elderly people would be prepared to humble themselves and learn from a youngster?! I found myself thinking of the gorilla - and a "youngster" by the name of Shimon ben Zoma. Most people don't know him by this name, but rather simply as "ben Zoma" - "son of Zoma." You can find one of his most beautiful teachings in Pirkei Avot chapter 4 Mishna 1. He asks, "Who is honoured?" and answers, "One who honours others!" Ben Zoma was not even called by his complete name, because he was so young, that - so-to-speak, he had not yet gained a status for himself. He was only some 18 years old at the time of saying this statement - and for this reason receives his own honour from his father - Zoma. And yet, he (the "youngster") has something to teach us. It has to do with nothing less than honour and respect! Who would imagine himself listening to such a youngster about advice regarding the subject of "respect"?! But those in the know, know very well that ben Zoma, though just a "youngster" was one of the four outstanding rabbis (together with Rabbi Akiva) who entered into the Pardes - learning and experiencing the deepest secrets of Torah - entering worlds filled - not with gorillas, but with angels!

Ben Zoma can teach us a thing or two about real respect - which as he indicates is about honouring the other. He well understands real respect - because he has seen angels. But what of us (most anyway!) who have never seen angels - but only gorillas?! We need but peak into one story (video below) to see what real respect is.

Imagine it for a moment, a troop of gorillas - lead by "Daddy" a massive beast with a "mean" temper who could probably kill a human with one slap of his arm! They're on their way walking down a path, and you're sitting filming... them! They're just a few feet away. Are you looking to live? If so, bowing your head and not looking directly at the family might be your ticket to "this world." Anything less, could cost you your life! 

Just a little respect to one who is so much stronger can have wonderful consequences though. Suddenly the "baby" comes by and begins to "groom" you... and with love. "Dad" sits and watches just to make sure everything is safe... Later, "Mom" comes by too and she too has some love to give. It even all ends with a kiss... Then it's over, and "Dad" together with the troop leave. Spectacular! Can you imagine the feeling? I mean of being groomed by these powerful beasts of course... On the one hand feeling completely humbled in the presence of "beasts" who can kill with the swipe of their arms. And on the other hand, feeling loved, taken care of, and special. May we even say - feeling "honoured"?

That is truly what life is about. We forget too quickly how great many others truly are. We believe we are already the greatest, that nothing can stop us. We are powerful with large bank accounts to our names, big bodies, attractive and... everything. But every so often, just so easily - something can happen to turn it around. After all, all the money in the world, would not save the man below should he offer it to the gorilla in order that it not hurt him. And all the beauty in the world would not stop the gorilla from any perceived threat to it... Don't forget, "Daddy" is watching...

We are all human, and our most important attribute we could ever own - is to be able to give respect to the other - no matter who they are. To honour them for their greatness - no matter who they are. To respect them because they too might have their own family - or perhaps even just want one! But we forget quickly... 

But what's amazing, what's so special, is not that we give this honour, nor that we show the respect that's actually due. What's really special is that when we do humble ourselves, sit quietly and show the respect where it is needed, we can look forward to good things in turn. We can look forward to the other - one day perhaps, or even right now - taking care of us, "grooming" us and showing us their love. We may even receive a kiss of love - because it was never their intention to hurt. It was only our perception of their being worth nothing...

So the story ends - and we come back to those wise words. Words said by a "youngster" of just 18 years of age. We are not even familiar with his first name. Ben Zoma - the son of Zoma teaches us, "Who is honoured", and he answers, "One who honours others."



For full article see: Wild Gorillas Groom Man During Park Visit

Friday, 2 December 2011

The Greatness of Leah: How Far Would You Go to Care for Another?


This weeks Parsha - VaYetzei, tells us about the stories concerning the births of the 12 children of Jacob - to become the tribes of Israel. It seems like the entire episode regarding the births is somewhat strange; maybe even twisted somewhat. 

Jacob loves Rachel - and works for Lavan for seven years for her. Then he's swindled - and it is in fact Rachel that gives up her husband so as not to embarrass her sister Leah. One would expect Rachel to be well rewarded. But instead, it is Leah who is rewarded with four beautiful children - all because - it seems, that Jacob does not show enough love to his "first" wife. Meanwhile, Rachel pines for her own children. The story continues and tells us that Bilah and Zilpah are blessed with two children each, and once again - thereafter, Leah is blessed with another two children. But Rachel still waits for blessing...

Leah falls pregnant again - and a glance at Rashi tells us something strange. Leah knows that the child inside her is a boy. She also knows that there are to be 12 children - 12 tribes. She has already given birth to 6 of them - and the two "maidservants" Bilhah and Zilpah have already given birth to another 4 of them. That being the case, there are only two children left to completing the entire "House of Israel." Leah begins to think fast, and realises that if her sister Rachel is not blessed with the remainder of the two children, she will be considered even more inferior to even the maidservants!

Leah may well have married Jacob first. She may even have taken away the opportunity of Rachel to spend her "Onah" night with Jacob - when Rachel was prepared to trade in the night in exchange for the Dudaim that Leah's son Reuven had found that day. But when it came to as serious an issue as a child being born - and rightly so - to her sister, she began to pray to G-d. And this is what she said:

"G-d, I care for my sister. I see her distress - even with everything we have been through in terms of our marriage to the same man. I remember how much I wanted what I did. And I thank You for Your wondrous blessings of not just 4, but 6 of the tribes of Israel. But I fear, the child inside me is another of the tribes - a tribe that should be destined for my sister - for she has NO children of her own. She has prayed, but You have not answered. She too is deserving of blessing in her life. I could not bear to contemplate the embarrassment she would suffer, were she to have even only one of the tribes of Israel - when even the maidservants have two each! In fact, she saved me from embarrassment on the night of my own marriage - should that not count for something?! I give up my right for this child and ask you to place it inside the womb of my sister Rachel."

Her sincere prayer was answered - and Leah was blessed with a girl - Dinah (who upon close examination displays many more manly behavioral traits in her life) - and Rachel was blessed with a boy - Josef (who displays many more feminine qualities in his life...)

It was this powerful prayer of Leah that sealed Rachel's fate of being blessed with Josef. And indeed, through it - ultimately - her (Leah's) own children were saved the pains of starvation in the years to come...

We turn to our own lives now, and we begin to contemplate... Are you? So many Jewish women are blessed (Bli Ayin HaRa) with children. After a child is born, immediate pregnancy comes about again and many Irish twins are born! Many are blessed with wealth too. No matter what they do - they are the offspring of Midas himself.

And yet many lack. Many cry. Many have no children. They try everything and anything. Just as those without wealth - will try everything and anything. Yet, for some reason nothing happens. Costly fertility treatments result in nothing. Fights in the home can be a common thing. Sleep is lost. The emotional feelings are impossible to describe to anyone who has taken "having children" for granted - for believing that the ability to have and prevent children lie in their hands. For such a couple - finding themselves with such tragedy day in and day out for years, divorce may even result. And why? Because they have no children there...

But Leah - with all her "faults" shines through. She teaches us a value that outweighs anything we can ever conceive (sic). When it comes to real life - life is not about battles, about jealousy, about laughing at the other, insulting them and hurting them wherever we can (after all G-d doesn't own you anything - even if I do have 15 children!) Life is about a caring that goes beyond any limit we can think of.

Leah could give it up. She could give up the blessing of a child that was to be hers - all so that her sister could have so much blessing in her own life.

And now we turn to ourselves and ask... Could we be as willing to pray to G-d and ask Him that though we may now be blessed with millions of dollars more in wealth - that we ask Him to exchange it - to give it to another in need?! Could we be as willing to pray to G-d to ask Him - that if we are to be destined with another child - that we give it up - all in the hope that another who cries every day - and every night - finally be blessed - too, with something they desire so much.

How far would you really go in praying for another? How much love do you really have - for another? Who knows, it may well be that very love, that in the future will be the very thing that comes back to bring blessing to all of your descendants in years to come...

It's no wonder that Moshiach will be a direct descendant from Judah - the fourth son of Leah - who Leah thanked G-d for. When a woman (and man) is prepared to appreciate what they have and to add to this the yearning and desire that another be blessed equally - and even with what is rightfully theirs - it is this very thing that awakens Moshiach and brings redemption to the world - and to each and every one of us.

Wednesday, 12 May 2010

Bamidbar - Counting Diamonds. Every Jew Counts...


With Sefirat HaOmer well into its final days, we read Parshat Bamidbar. It seems like it's all about counting! Whether it's the Jews who are counting, or being counted, it seems that there is a value in each count that is made.

But who cares?! Who really cares?! With over 600 000 Jews being counted, does it make a difference? 600 000 – excluding women, children and those under 20 and over 60 years of age. In total – more than three million would be the more accurate figure. But with such figures, does it really count that anyone is a "someone"?!

It is well known that on Sunday mornings the Lubavitcher Rebbe used to distribute dollars to be given to charity. Thousands of Jews would line up each Sunday for the chance to receive a dollar and a blessing from the Rebbe. On one occasion, an older lady who had been waiting a long time blurted out to the Rebbe that she marvelled at how he could stand for so many hours on his feet dispensing the dollars, as she was totally exhausted from her wait! (The Rebbe began giving dollars at the age of 84!)

Replied the Rebbe, "When you are counting diamonds, you don't get tired." For the Rebbe, every Jew was a diamond.

Another story was related by Mr. George Rohr at a convention for the Rebbe's emissaries in 5757.

Mr. Rohr related how, as a member of the Machne Israel Special Development Fund - a special fund established to build new Chabad centers around the world, he had the privilege to meet the Rebbe on one occasion just after Rosh Hashanah. Mr. Rohr thought that instead of asking the Rebbe for something, he would give the Rebbe a present of his own. A short time before Rosh Hashanah, he had been instrumental in setting up a beginners' service at his shul in Manhattan. On Rosh Hashanah, 120 Jews attended this new service. Mr. Rohr decided to announce this to the Rebbe and was sure the Rebbe would receive much nachas from this good news. When his turn to meet the Rebbe arrived, he confidently strode up to the Rebbe and shared with him his good news:

"Thank G-d, this Rosh Hashanah we set up a beginners' service in our shul and had 120 Jews with no Jewish background participate!" Until that point the Rebbe had a broad smile on his face, but when Mr. Rohr told him the news the Rebbe's face dropped, and Mr. Rohr searched his words for anything he may have said that had upset the Rebbe.

"What?" said the Rebbe. Mr. Rohr repeated, "...120 Jews with no Jewish background." "No Jewish background?" asked the Rebbe. "Go and tell those Jews that they are all children of Avraham, Yitzchok and Yaakov."

Now Mr. Rohr understood. The Rebbe objected to these Jews, his children, being described as having no Jewish background. The Rebbe pointed out that every Jew has a Jewish background, a great, illustrious background - they are the children of Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov! Every Jew counts. 

When it comes to understanding the true wealth – the true greatness of a Jewish soul, it takes a true "diamond dealer" to know just why it is that every single one counts, and each is as great and special as the next. The essence of a Jewish soul is a spark of G-dliness. There is no tangible physical value to that, only that it a necessary part of creation. It counts…

Imagine now the difference this would make in our lives, were we to consider that each interaction with another was as important to us – as it is important to G-d?! Instead of the constant criticism, the attacks, the insults and disregard for the other, we would actually come to acknowledge them for the greatness inside them. The real diamond dealer knows well that though a rock may look like a piece of coal, buried underneath that black coating lies the diamond of inestimable wealth!  

But most of us think this way in any case – right?! 

If you knew that a great musician was playing at a huge hall where thousands would attend, tickets cost $100 each, and he'd be using his $3.5 million violin to play on – would you feel honoured to attend? Would you show the musician some sort of respect, possibly even speak about the "show" for weeks on end? Would you feel privileged to receive an autograph of the musician? Amazingly, most people would feel and answer in the positive about all the above.

But what about if you didn't know who that same musician was and bumped into him at some place not quite as fancy as a prepared hall for thousands of visitors? What about if he were wearing some torn jeans instead and a baseball hat instead of his five thousand dollar tuxedo? What if you heard him playing dressed that way with the same violin used at his concert? What if you heard him playing – as he begged for money?! Would you feel honoured to give him now? Would you feel as if it were you doing him the favour more than he was doing it for you? Would you even want to listen to what he had to play?!

Many would answer that they would treat everyone with the same respect – especially if they could really see the talent. But words are far easier to work with than action. When I heard about this story (two years later!) related below, I was amazed at the results. Though amazed, it did not surprise me. We tend to give honour only to those who we believe deserve our respect. Apparently, they must dress a certain way, be in a certain place and charge a certain amount before we'll show them any respect. But the true person of goodness and honesty learns to value everyone for the great soul that they are. This is the difference between the average person and the one who learns to see the value of everyone in the world – a person who the Torah might refer to as someone whose inside is like his outside. He does not show his behaviour falsely in one scenario and then in another let his true colours shine out. Instead he behaves in the same way with all – because he sees the beauty of everything as it should be.

There really is no difference between a person who seems covered up in mud – before and after the shower – except that in the one case, his appearance looks shabby. But inside, the same person exists. G-d knows that, the Rebbe knew it too. Diamonds are diamonds whether covered up or not. One needs to be sensitive enough to wake up and realise what lies in front of us every day of our lives as we show respect to each person who comes in to it. When will we learn?!

Joshua Bell – a leading and outstanding world class violinist had just played his $3.5 million violin at a concert. Tickets cost $100 each. The hall was full. The silence - a pin dropping on the floor could be heard next to the beautiful melodies – some of the most difficult pieces – being played. The night was a success! One can only imagine the honour and respect given to Joshua as he ended his performance that night!

The Washington Post decided to do a test with people just a couple of days later… Joshua was dressed like an ordinary citizen with a cap on his head. He would be stationed at the subway playing his $3.5 million violin (the one he had just used). He would be playing the exact same pieces he had played that night. Only, this time, he would open his violin case in front of him in the hope of attracting "customers" to part with their hard earned money so that he could make a living. He would take upon himself the role of "beggar" – though he'd be working very hard for his money by playing his violin.

We all know how bothersome it can be to have to walk down a street listening to some beggar playing pathetically because he cannot do anything more with his life than beg for money – right?! How many of us choose to walk by with our noses in the air – what an unfortunate wreck! How ever did he manage to get himself into such a mess of life as to having to resort to begging for money? And on top of this, he has the nerve to attempt to do something by playing an instrument to show his "readiness" to work for his money. How many of us actually give?! How many of us actually care?! Do we even ever listen to the beautiful melody that the musician might play?! Could we ever imagine that he might even be an expert? Hidden underneath those torn clothes lies the potential for greatness! Perhaps he already is great! He certainly knows – he is!

We might have imagined the average person to have parted with large summons of money as they heard this expert playing his violin so perfectly. After all, just some time earlier he had played for a very large audience who paid $100 per ticket – each!

Ironically, Joshua earned just over $30 for those 45 minutes of play. Only 6 people had actually taken the time to listen, and some 20 odd actually gave. Just one woman actually recognised him as being the musician from the concert a few days before (who could not work out how he had ended up on the street!)

How many of us do this to ourselves every day? Each day presents itself with the opportunity to take the time out and see the greatness of every single person. Are we prepared to listen?! Are we prepared to open our eyes?! Or will we still walk past the beggar with feelings of arrogance at our own success – and his pitiful state – for not being an anything in the world?! Will we even walk past those "closest" to ourselves thinking nothing more of them and incompetent at everything they do?! What of "friends" who just can't seem to ever make a "success" of their lives? Will we continue to disregard what might actually be hidden inside themselves? What actually is hidden inside themselves!

G-d knows well the value of a person – because as we see in our Parsha, He counts each Jew. Each has value – even if nobody else can see it. Each will show their value one day. It's really up to us to be the ones to begin the process of seeing things now – while we have the chance – before it is too late – for us all! And so too, the Rebbe would see the value of every single person that passed by. It was not a waste of his time. Because when one is a diamond dealer of souls… an expert… then one never gets tired counting diamonds.

For a full description of this amazing story of Joshua Bell, see Famous Violinist Joshua Bell Plays at a Metro Station

If you still don't believe it… see it on the video below:

Thursday, 22 April 2010

How to Love Another


Leviticus 19:18 is made up of some of the hardest words the world will ever come to understand, "And you shall love your fellow as you love yourself." For someone working on themselves, these words are not difficult to understand. These are words that are necessary for life itself. 

The average person who listens to others during regular conversation talk, will quite often hear them quoting this very line - a line not from some "other" religion, but rather from the Chumash itself - that book that forms the crux of the Torah given to the Jewish nation at Har Sinai. 


Rabbi Akiva says that this principle is a great rule in the Torah! And Hillel taught, "What is hateful to yourself, do not do to others." These areas have been explained in other posts, and the plethora of material available about this topic is truly unlimited. One does wonder however, why the world is in such a topsy-turvy state, when these words seem to be on the lips of all - so very often! Not only that, it seems like those who relate these words often seem to be caught up in their own world as to what these words could really mean -resulting in a situation of complete chaos of what love is really all about! If these words were being taken to heart, we would surely have a world of peace, goodness and kindness.

There's no doubt, these words are worthy of contemplation every single day. Instead of considering the options of meditating on some word (that has no one direct meaning as such), would the world not be a far better place, if we could spend that "meditation time" considering the power of these words?! Thereafter - of course - the necessary step of actually implementing them into every life situation, becomes an absolute necessity!

Those interested in mastering the "techniques" involved in really coming to love one's fellow, would do well to spend at least an hour every single day involved in the study of Chassidic works as well as some of the more well known Mussar works. But for those wishing to digest a summary of important points, the Ksav VeHaKabbalah (Rabbi Yaakov Tzvi Mecklenberg - 19th century) enlightens us:
  • Your affection for others should be real, not feigned
  • Always treat others with respect
  • Always seek the best for them
  • Join in their pain
  • Greet them with friendliness
  • Give them the benefit of the doubt
  • Assist them physically, even in matters that are not very difficult
  • Be ready to assist with small or moderate loans and gifts
  • Do not consider yourself better than them
It doesn't take an entire lifetime to get to understand the basics... but it may take an entire lifetime of both study and action to be able to appreciate and value just how much needs to be done to be able to truly understand what it means to... "Love your fellow as you love yourself."

Tuesday, 10 June 2008

To Love a Fellow Jew? Just How Much?!

THROUGH THE EYES OF THE BAAL SHEM TOV...

"Love every Jew... without difference. Whether a greatly righteous individual - a Tzaddik - or a learned scholar - a Talmid Chacham - or whether a simple person. Love them equally."

THROUGH THE EYES OF THE MAGGID OF MEZRITCH...

"Loving a fellow Jew does not only apply to loving simple Jews... but rather even to the wicked"

THROUGH THE EYES OF THE ALTER REBBE...

"There is no such thing as a Tzaddik (a righteous) or a Rasha (wicked) Jew. One needs to love every Jew from "great" to "small" as if they were all one.

"LOVE YOUR FELLOW JEW AS YOURSELF" - Just like yourself!
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Each of the Rebbes added something novel to the concept of loving another.

At the times of the Baal Shem Tov, those Jews who were unable to spend much time involved in learning were frowned upon. Many were considered fools. Many were indeed very simple. They gave of themselves in other ways. Perhaps not through the intricate arguments of Abaye and Rava. But they were completely Jewish in all respects - nonetheless!

The Baal Shem Tov taught the world the importance of loving even the "simple" Jew.

The Baal Shem Tov taught that Jews are the Tefillin of G-d. G-d also wears Tefillin. There are Tefillin that are placed on the head, and Tefillin on the arm. Both are needed.

The Tefillin on the arm on put on first! And only thereafter the Tefillin on the head.

The Tefillin on the arm are those Jews involved with Mitzvah observance. They may not be able to devote themselves wholly to the wisdom of Torah, but they are certainly involved in actual Mitzvah observance. Shabbos, Kashrus, Taharas HaMishpacha. Charity, Mezuzah, Tefillin and more...

The Tefillin on the head are those Jews who spend their days immersed in the wisdom of Torah. They too observe Mitzvot! Nevertheless their main occupation each day is the study of Torah.
But, before the Tefillin on the head are worn, the Tefillin on the arm must be put on. One cannot simply overlook them just because they seem more connected with physicality. They are no less important than the Tefillin on the head.

Perhaps those "Tefillin on the head" can learn much from those "Tefillin on the arm". The need to do far outweighs the need to learn - since "Action is the main thing!" Our learning is there to know what to do, but not as an end in and of itself. We must learn to know what to do, but learning with action is no different than a computer with unlimited hard drive space collecting meaningless "bits" of data, only to have them magnetised on a metal device - with the computer turned off!

The Baal Shem Tov taught the importance of respecting the simple Jew!
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The Maggid of Mezritch made an addition. One day, the great Rebbe Reb Elimelech of Lyzynsk came to the Maggid (while he was learning from him) and told him, "Do you hear what they are saying in the Yeshiva Above?

To love a fellow Jew is to love a completely evil person like one loves the completely righteous one!"
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The Alter Rebbe - even after having written an entire work - the Tanya - teaching about the "differences" between the "Tzaddik" - the righteous person - and the "Beinoni" (or Rasha) - the Middle person (or even the wicked one) - still came along with a teaching more novel than either of his Rebbes:

"There is no such things as a Tzaddik or a Rasha" - "All Jews come from One Father. All Jews are from the exact same source."
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Perhaps this is the message of Shavuot when all the Jewish people encamped *together* to receive the Torah in one unity. There was no difference amongst them all. They were simply all Jews. Jewish souls. Jewish sparks of Divinity. Divinity cannot be broken down. It cannot be made into greater parts and smaller parts. It simply is.

Monday, 31 March 2008

TANYA CHAPTER 32 - A LOVING HEART


And behold, by means of fulfilling the things spoken about above[1], that a person’s body should be despised and disgusting in his eyes – and that his only happiness should be the happiness of the soul alone: Behold, this is the upright and easiest way to come to fulfilling the Mitzvah of “And you shall love your fellow man as you love yourself” – “ואהבת לרעך כמוך” towards every Jewish soul from great to small.

Since it is that his body is disgusting and despicable towards him, and the[2] soul and the spirit[3] – who knows their greatness and high level in their root and source (Root and Source) in the living G-d. Since all[4] are fitting and there is one Father to them all. And therefore all of Yisrael[5] are called “brothers”[6] in absolute reality[7] from the point of view of the root of their soul in the One G‑d. It is only their bodies that are divided.

And therefore, those who make their bodies “the main thing” and their souls “secondary”, it is impossible for there to be true love and brotherhood between them, except for the type that is dependant on something[8].

And this is what Hillel the elder said regarding the fulfillment of this Mitzvah, “that this is the entire Torah, and the rest is but mere commentary etc.” For the foundation and root of the entire Torah is to raise and elevate the soul over the body (higher) level by (higher) level until[9] the origin (Origin) and source (Source) of all worlds, and also to draw down the Infinite Light[10] (Hashem) Blessed is He, into the Community of Israel – as it is written later. That means to say, into the origin of souls of all Israel to be one (One) in one (One) specifically[11], and not when there is separation G-d forbid, with the souls, because the Holy One Blessed is He does not dwell in a place of defect.

And as it is written[12] “Bless us, our King, all of us like one (One) in the light of Your Face. And as is written in other places at length"

And that, that is written in the Gemara, that one who sees in his friend that he sinned, it’s a Mitzvah to hate him, and also to tell his teacher to hate him too – this[13] is someone who is his friend in Torah and Mitzvos. And[14] he must already have fulfilled the Mitzvah of “And you shall surely rebuke your fellow man” – "הוכח תוכח את עמיתך"[15] – i.e. (one who is) with you in Mitzvahs.[16] And even though that be the case[17], he did not return (do Teshuva) from sinning – as is written is the Sefer Chareidim.

But someone who is not his friend and is not his close companion by him, behold, about this, Hillel the elder said[18] “Be of the pupils of Aharon – loving peace etc. (pursuing peace), loving people[19] (creatures) and bringing them closer to Torah. That means to say, even those who are far from the Torah of Hashem and His service[20]. And therefore they are called by the name “creatures” in a general sense – one must draw them with ropes tied up of love. And all of this, and perhaps, he will be able to bring them to Torah and to the service of Hashem.

And if not, he still has not lost out on the reward for the Mitzvah of loving ones comrades. And also those who bring others close to him, and rebuke them, and they don’t return (do Teshuva) from their sins – that it is a “Mitzvah” to hate them, there is also a Mitzvah to love them as well! And both of them are true – hatred from the side of the bad in them, and love from the side of the aspect of good that is hidden inside them, that is the spark of G-dliness inside them, that gives life to their G-dly souls, and also to awaken mercy in his heart upon her[21]. Because she[22] is in exile amidst the bad of the Sitra Achra[23], which strengthens itself upon her[24] towards the Reshaim[25], and mercy[26] nullifies the hatred, and awakens the love, as is known from what is written about Yaakov, that (Yaakov) redeemed Avraham[27] [and King David, peace be upon him, did not say[28] “With absolute hatred, I hate those… etc. except on the willful apostates and abandoners of the Jewish faith – Apikorsim, who have no portion in the G-d of Israel, as it stated in the Gemara, beginning chapter 16 of Shabbat.][29]

תניא פרק לב

והנה ע"י קיום הדברי' הנ"ל להיות גופו נבזה ונמאס בעיניו רק שמחתו תהיה שמחת הנפש לבדה הרי זו דרך ישרה וקלה לבא לידי קיום מצות ואהבתה לרעך כמוך לכל נפש מישראל למגדול ועד קטן. כי מאחר שגופו נמאס ומתועב אצלו והנפש והרוח מי יודע גדולתן ומעלתן בשרשן ומקורן באלקי' חיים. בשגם שכולן מתאימות ואב א' לכולנה ולכן נקראו כל ישראל אחים ממש מצד שורש נפשם בה' אחד רק שהגופים מחולקי'. ולכן העושי' גופם עיקר ונפשם טפלה אי אפשר להיות אהבה ואחבה אמיתית ביניהם אלא התלויה בדבר לבדה. וז"ש הלל הזקן על קיום מצוה זו זהו כל התורה כולה ואידך פירושא הוא כו'. כי יסוד ושורש כל התורה הוא להגביה ולעלו' הנפש על הגוף מעלה מעלה עד עיקרא ושרשא דכל עלמין וגם להמשיך אור א"ס ב"ה בכנסת ישראל כמ"ש לקמן דהיינו במקור נשמות כל ישראל למהוי אחד באחד דוקא ולא כשיש פירוד ח"ו בנשמות דקב"ה לא שריא באתר פגים וכמ"ש ברכנו אבינו כולנו כאחד באור פניך וכמ"ש במ"א באריכות: ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ומצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים וגם המקורבים אילו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהן שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]

[1] See previous chapter/s
[2] i.e. but regarding the
[3] The Nefesh and the Ruach (the two lower, more discernable layers of the five levels of the soul. The Nefesh being more associated with the animal part of the soul. The Ruach being associated with a slightly higher level, but still very much a part of the “visible” self. The Baal HaTanya does not mention the Neshama which is already the more G-dly part of a persons soul, and he surely makes no mention of the two highest levels of the soul, namely Chaya and Yechida which are said to hover above/around a person and far more “attached” to G-dliness than the 3 lower levels.
[4] Every Jewish soul
[5] The Jewish people
[6] See Chapter 2 of Tanya well!
[7] Materially and spiritually
[8] See Pirkei Avos 5:16 “Only a love that is not dependant on a love with last. But a love that is dependant on a cause will never last.”
[9] Read: “Until it ‘reaches’”
[10] Ohr Ain Sof in original Hebrew
[11] For each soul to include itself in every other Jewish soul so that there is a total unity of souls
[12] Final blessing of the Shemoneh Esrei
[13] Refers to
[14] In addition to this point
[15] Leviticus 19:17 (See Rashi as well.) I personally read a very interesting statement made by Rabbi Avraham Yeshaya Karelitz (known as the Chazon Ish, a Posek – ruler in Halacha, of the previous generation.) The Rambam defines the Mitzvah of Ahavas Yisrael – loving one’s fellow Jew as: “To love everyone in Israel with a soul love (ahavas nefesh). To have compassion on a Jew and on his money just like a person would have compassion on himself and his own money.” The oft-quoted exception is the rasha. The Chazon Ish ruled that already in his generation there were no real reshaim – only Tinokos Shenishbu (children held captive and are not liable for not having kept the Mitzvos, as they have no knowledge of what Torah and Judaism are all about.) Most Jews today fall into this category. With regards to this Mitzvah of rebuking a fellow Jew before one is entitled to hate him is concerned – they asked the Chazon Ish “how many times must one rebuke a Jew before he is allowed to hate him?” The Chazon Ish replied: “Until you know, from Ruach HaKodesh – Divine Inspiration from Above – that you are Yotzei (have fulfilled) the Mitzvah of rebuke.” Nevertheless even here, the entire Mitzvah of rebuke is an entire Sugya (section of learning) unto itself, and one must certainly be very careful of how one goes about it. As above, see the entire Passuk with Rashi.
[16] A play on the word Amitecha (“your nation”) which shares the same first two letters as the word IM meaning “with”.
[17] Even after rebuking him
[18] Pirkei Avos 1:12
[19] Literally “creatures” – בריות. The word chosen is not “people” – אנשים, but rather “creatures.”
[20] And one may think that this person may be no better than a creature that scurries around attending to it’s animalistic tendencies all day long.
[21] The G-dly soul which is not felt be this individual, who has lost all touch with his connection to G-dliness.
[22] This G-dly soul.
[23] “The other-side” – a term used in Kabbalah and Chassidus to describe everything that is antithetical to Torah. The Sitra Achra is the exact opposite of G-dliness.
[24] The G-dly soul.
[25] The evil people. See Chapter 1 of Tanya for a better understanding of Tzaddik - the righteous, Beinoni – the middle-man, and Rasha – the evil person.
[26] This is the mercy that one Jew has upon another, in spite of his apparent “evil” ways. He continues to love him, even though he feels he (the other Jew) may not be deserving of such love, - perhaps due to his behaviour.
[27] In Kabbalah and Chassidus, each of the Avot (Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov) represent one particular force. Avraham is Chesed – kindness. Yitzchak is Gevurah – Strength. Yaakov is Emet – truth. Truth being the middle point is also closest to Kindness, and by mediating between the two, Kindness and Strength, it inclines towards Kindness becoming Mercy! Therefore Yaakov takes more out of Avraham – so to speak – than he does from Yitzchak. Whereas Yitzchak inclines in a very hard approach of holding-back (strength), Yaakov pulls away from that, returning to Avraham’s Kindness, resulting in an even more beautiful attribute, known as Mercy. Thus Yaakov redeems Avraham. Mercy brings out the Kindness that has been hidden, or captured, so to speak.
[28] Psalms 139:22
[29] See footnote 16 again.

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